Your WHY helps you win in life
Optimists Win- ALWAYS
I don’t mean the naïve ones, but the tough-minded ones. Ones who, despite the rough times and rainy weather, keep going and keep on hoping. Part of it has to do with why we do what we do.
As we go into mid-November, let us think about the WHY we are doing things -- and if it isn’t a good enough why, then, maybe we can find something better to do in 2020. If you really want to do something well, you need to believe in what you are doing. That gives you motivation of the best kind, it’s the way to be the real winner. So, your why has to do with your values- if you don’t know them, maybe you should find out. That will keep you going when it gets tough and keep you on your preferred path, too.
Here are a few tips to help you remain on the positive side of your why:
1) Smile more.
There is research that proves that if your carry your body in a certain way, it can change your mood. Smiling really makes you more positive. Ask Amy Cuddy. Just try and smile.
2) Stand like Wonder Woman.
No joke. This activity also gives you the positive power and presence you might need today to get out there and “win one for the Gipper”. Try it—but best perhaps at home or in the bathroom, not in front of those you will be presenting to. Maybe try this with some cozy sweater on to fight the cold day.
3) Reframe the negative with gratitude.
Being thankful for what you have and what is good is a very good practice for all year, but especially for this month. Gratefulness actually can change your negativism.
4) Avoid Tribalism, if at all possible. (I’m preaching a bit, here)
Now you say, “But finding your tribe is the new thing to do!” Sort of yes, and yet, no, in the end. We can, and should, learn and get energy from like-minded people. And now here comes the big BUT: We can’t ONLY hang out with and respect people that we like and who are like us. That’s tribalism at its worst, and for me that’s the main issue with our western world (maybe the whole world?) at the moment. And it keeps you whimpy. Another friend would put it this way: only by getting out of your comfort zone will you actually grow. Thus, staying inside your tribe will keep you from growing and achieving what you could if you move out and rub shoulders with people who are different from you. Finally, I want to leave you with questions that might help you to think about where are you are regarding optimism and tribalism: How often do you use the word “they” to separate yourself from another group of people? How often do you use “we” with people who are not like you?
This is the month of Thanksgiving- it’s all about being grateful- together, even if you are with those who are “not like” you. You can learn from each other, and still be very grateful.
I wish you a very optimistic and grateful November - one full of growth!
Patricia Jehle