Part two of "Finding Hope"

Last week I began a series on finding hope in uncertainty. Boy oh boy are things becoming uncertain!

Last week I wrote that in times of uncertainty, when life feels unpredictable and control seems out of reach, hope is essential. It serves as a light, a source of strength that keeps us moving forward, even when we can't see the path clearly. Finding hope in uncertainty can help us regain balance, resilience, and a sense of purpose, helping us navigate challenges with a positive outlook. I gave three steps on this and here are some more on how to cultivate and hold onto hope, even in the midst of uncertainty.

Then this weekend happened. Need I say more?

BUT

Victor Frankl, an author and holocaust survivor, once said – “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

So, let us look as how we can change ourselves:

4. Do not forget your PPFs!

PAST: Remember the past and be grateful, PRESENT: savor what we have in the present and FUTURE: anticipate the good things the future holds with hope.

Here’s my example:

MY PAST:  This past weekend I had a wonderful time and I have accomplished quite some good things recently.

My PRESENT right now is that I have accomplished a lot on my to do list  so I am freer to think than I was before and the weather is glorious.

My FUTURE (HOPE) for today and tomorrow is a near future hope:  I am looking forward to finishing the semester’s teaching and moving on in life. This gives me great hope. 

What are your PPFs?

A SMALL EXERCISE:

How stressed are you right now? Scale it.

5. Then you can Build a Strong Support Network of REAL FRIENDS (AND FAMILY)

Hope is easier to sustain when we’re connected to others. Friends, family, and community can provide encouragement, perspective, and support during uncertain times. It has been proven that strong support is the key ingredient to a happier longer life.

REMEMBER TO SHARE YOUR FEELINGS!

Don’t hesitate to share your feelings with people you trust. T(his is another blog, or better, a book.) Talking through your concerns can help relieve stress and make you feel understood and supported.

Find “your people”.  IF you do not have a group of people you can turn to, it is necessary for your to find one.

Connecting with others who may be experiencing similar uncertainties can also be helpful. Community groups, support networks, faith groups, clubs, or even alumni organisations can help you feel less isolated and remind you that you’re not alone.

6. THEN, Make Sure you can reach your GOALS!

Remember to set meaningful realistic goals that help you to move forward.

In times of uncertainty, it’s common to feel aimless or powerless. Setting small, achievable goals gives you a sense of purpose and direction, providing hope by creating steps toward a positive future.

Also, celebrate the wins (see number 2 from last week).

Intentions can also be helpful.

Sometimes a goal is not helpful so you can set intentions instead of rigid goals.  So maybe do not set fixed outcomes, set intentions that focus on how you want to approach challenges. Intentions like “I will stay open to new opportunities” or “I will focus on learning” can be powerful guides. This Lenten season I have made an intention of leaving more space to think and consider life.

Remember to be flexible.

Always be flexible because flexibility allows you to adapt to changing circumstances without feeling disappointed. These days life is changing rapidly, so hold your goals and intentions lightly in your hands. Remind yourself that it’s okay to adjust your goals as situations change.

When you consider these ideas, which are most helpful for you? Next week I will give you some more insight into finding hope these days.

Have a hopeful rest of the week and weekend!

Patricia Jehle                           patricia@jehle-coaching.com