I am reading a book called, “Useful Delusions”, which talks about how our mind plays tricks on ourselves to help us be more resilient. One of the research-based sections is on optimism and how optimists live longer. Sorry for those of you who don’t use your rose colored glasses very much. Dust them off and try to remember the positives in life and be grateful for them. Here some ideas: Be grateful, stand like Wonder Woman and smile more often.
Read MoreWhen I teach negotiation, I pull out the Six Principles of Persuasion by Dr. Robert Cialdini (a professor and sociologist) and we discuss two things: the students’ own experience with being persuaded (or not) and how they might use these principles in negotiations and at work, in general.
Here are the big six:
· Reciprocity
· Scarcity
· Authority
· Consistency
· Consensus
· Liking (people)
Let me explain each one and how they may be used “against” you to be persuaded and even (gasp) manipulated.
Read MoreWe all have fears, and fear is normal. We are made to have fear so we run away from imminent danger.
But sometimes our fear goes “sideways” and comes out in the “wrong place.
Sometimes we are afraid of the wrong things.
Sometimes fear overwhelms and gets us in a stuck place.
Read MoreAvoid awfulizing, us vs. them, and scarcity mindset thinking when making decisions to be successful.
Read MoreAre you trying to make a decision about something and just can’t get past some of the “ish” factors? Or are you talking yourself into something that maybe you (or your trusted network) might not feel so right about- maybe you are wanting to just get that first deal? ALSO: Loss aversion can derail our plans, our business, our life. It makes us focus too much on the short-term and not the long-term. We tend to give up on things that we see as loss to us especially when we apply great meaning to that thing, whatever it might be. We need to remember to always think long-term.
Read MoreWhen we are dealing with feedback you can either take it seriously and try to change or you can blame “the circumstances beyond your control” and avoid doing anything.
Sometimes, granted, the circumstances are beyond our control: covid, lockdowns, shifts in market demand are all beyond our control. But how we respond to them is pretty much under our control.
Read MoreWhen we make good choices, we want to be aware of our biases and think more clearly. Here are ideas to make better decisions:
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Read MoreOur biases can damage our decision-making process and even endanger our plans, projects and companies
Read MoreWe all are learning beings.
Life is all about learning.As a child we learn to speak and walk and soon enough we are running and chatting away… The main idea is to be open to feedback and even criticism, looking for even wee grains of truth. We all have something to learn. Let us keep on learning, even if we think “I know this”.
Read MoreWhen you have change and conflict at work, what can you do and how can you make sure you are part of the solution(s), and not part of the problem(s)? Suggestions below:
Read MoreWhat characteristics are needed to be a good coach? Authority, Authenticity, Integrity and Empathy.
Authority: Are you “able to do the job well”?
Authenticity, Integrity, Empathy: This begins with personal-awareness skills: self-awareness, self-management, and knowing that your own reactions are part of the method of coaching (and supervision). You as the coach are the most powerful “tool” and intervention.
Read MoreI now have two more certifications, including the Cerny Smith Assessment Coach. Life is about learning and growing. Here is my latest update.
Read MoreThe four qualities, AUTHENTICITY, INTEGRITY, AUTHORITY, and EMPATHY are key in making decisions when to hire someone, when to partner with someone and when, in my view, to add someone to your very small “close friend” or personal partner list.
Read MoreTrust needs to be given with eyes wide open, well-earned, and vetted in partnerships and other business relationships.
Read MoreYou can change your life, your work, your company. It’s a challenge and it’s possible to change.
Read MoreWhen you work online, meetings can be more difficult, so here are suggestions for etiquette, active listening to make the meeting more productive
Read MoreWhat can you do with your covid grief and trauma? Try journaling.
Read MoreWhen you start a business you need to consider all the scenarios, both positive and negative and have plans so you can succeed.
Read MoreIs COVID causing trauma for you? Are you easily triggered or often moody or irritated? Are you constantly anxious or worrying? Is your time management so out of whack that you are not taking time to have fun, or even to take care of yourself? Are you easily overwhelmed, much more easily than a year ago? Are you catching more colds than normal and getting multiple covid tests, just to “make sure”? Are you getting addicted to something: gaming, shopping, social-media, alcohol, etc.?
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