The How of productivity without overwhelm:
How do I keep from feeling overwhelmed, even if the activities are mostly great?
I use a couple of coaching tools on myself. One is the Eisenhower Matrix and one is writing everything down with visualization - on the family calendar, on my electronic calendar, writing it in my to-do journal…
Read MoreMy wish for you is that you have MORE of what really counts in this season!
What’s happened for me and Jehle Coaching:
I have been working on my member care and debriefing skills for the past year as well as keeping up my coaching and supervision skills (including conflict resolution and team and group dynamics) with mostly online but also in-person courses.
Read MoreAs we move towards 2022, I am doing some reflection. It helps to bring about change.
I’m reflecting on my situation and accepting for it is, and then doing what I can about it.
Read MoreMerry Christmas from Jehle Coaching! With a time of personal reflection for you at the end.
2021 has been full and a profitable year for me and for Jehle Coaching.
I hope your year has also been profitable, as well.
Read MoreWe all know the saying: Hurt people HURT people.
But do you know that Healed people HEAL people?
I was told this second phrase last week in a training evening, and I believe it to be true- healed people heal people.
Read MoreIt’s a season where we think we should be grateful but what can we be grateful for?
There’s bad news all around starting with a continuing pandemic (now we have delta and omicron) and ending with wars and rumors of wars, famine, diseases (other than covid) and floods.
STOP, THINK, FEEL, REFLECT – and BE GRATEFUL.
Read MoreMost people think of stress as the enemy, but it isn’t.
You can even be stressed and have along life, as long as you see stress in certain ways.
Stress can be a friend and stress in itself it is never the real problem.
It’s what we think about the stress and how we deal with the stressors that is the issue. We all have stress every day.
Stress is ubiquitous and every day we need to complete the stress cycle (you have to do something – because “wellness is not a state of being, but a state of action”) to thrive.
Read MoreUse your strengths to work on your weaknesses
When you know your strengths, go in the opposite direction for growth. That means gently pushing towards your weaknesses, using your strengths as your basis, as your foundation.
For example, if you are big on doing things right all the time, allow yourself some slack but also keep doing (most things) right. OR- if you want to grow in your relationships and you are good at listening, try sharing and being more vulnerable for growth, at the same time, still asking good questions and practicing active listening.
Read MorePAST: Remember the past and be grateful, PRESENT: savor what we have in the present and FUTURE: anticipate the good things the future holds with hope.
Read MoreI have just had a holiday. It’s been great, but at least for me, returning to the job can sometimes be difficult. Returning to work can be emotionally - and even physically difficult, especially if you have really had a mental break from your every-day schedule, as I have had. It can feel like you are a deep-sea diver coming to the surface again, facing a foreign world from where you have recently been. Resurfacing and getting back in the saddle, to mix some metaphors, are tough.
Start on a Wednesday, or even Thursday- or do a “fun” thing first
I restarted last Thursday.
Make your first work-week lighter by only working a few days, or perhaps schedule something “fun” first, such as a training day, or a team building day where you have no choice but to ignore your email list. This time I only focused on the deadlines
Read MoreHealed people Heal people
So, what are you going to do? Join the grumpies and the people who yell, troll, and/or write nasty emails and even publicly “expose” people?
Are you going to be people who say, “I am going to hide in my hole till the mess is over”? It’s never over.
Or
Are we going to help people by looking for the best in others and to accept our personal responsibility for our hurtful ways, asking forgiveness and then moving on to better ways?
We can only change ourselves and our attitudes.
Read MoreHow is happiness attained?
1. In a job well-done (and if at all possible, within the time and financial constraints)
2. In (finally) reaching a goal
But also in:
· Healthy activity for mind, body and soul (and all the underlying goals to be reached)
· Good (safe, fun, reliable) relationships where I can be myself and share myself
· Doing good to others, especially “strangers” (no kidding!)
· Being grateful for the past, savoring the present and looking to the future with hope
· Being happy about your job and what that job contributes to “the greater good”
Read MoreUry’s 6-Step Model:
1. Put yourself in your own shoes
2. Develop your inner BATNA
3. Reframe your picture of the situation
4. Stay in the Zone
5. Respect them, even if…
6. Give and Receive
Read MoreHow are you getting ready for the fall?
Are your emails paired down and ready for responses? Do you code/color-code them for “triage” and potential clients?
What about your to-do list(s)? Do you keep your old lists to make sure you haven’t out something under the pile of papers for too long?
What is your calendar like?
Read Morethis gives us all a chance to think of how to make our working environment more positive, in general. Maybe I can be a friend so someone (unfortunately my work “best friend” recently retired, and now I would like to find someone, which isn’t always easy, as it is chemistry, etc.)- so, I wish you a god time reflecting and moving forward at work.
Finally, maybe you are still under lockdown or afraid that it will happen again at any time, if this is the case, what on the list can best help you deal with that uncertainty. Learning to deal with the uncertainty in life is the best we can do at this time.
Read MoreHow can we go into the fall with a calm and resolute heart to move forward positively?
First, decide not to decide (too much).
For sure, we need to keep moving.
Also, keep on planning.
Read MoreDownsizing at the beginning of the fall/school year is a god thing (I will be doing this later, but for us here in the Argovian countryside, school began this morning).
Sometimes it’s time to downsize and also to look in new directions in our life. Maybe it’s time to make a list or two to remember what’s really important.
Read MoreTransition(s) and Change(s)
Make for Loss
Which has to be grieved
There’s been a lot going on for most of us since March 2020. We’ve experienced extreme loss and change; we have hopefully grieved each of these losses well so that we can move on.
Change equals loss
Read MoreOur values are important and following them is one of the keys to success (and even happiness).
When our actions (and words) come into alignment with our core values, life is generally good, and we feel content, confident and satisfied. But when our behaviors don’t match up with our values, we soon begin to experience a sense of uneasiness and discomfort in our soul (mind and emotions). We are not living out of authenticity. We are not full of integrity. We need to know our whys, as Simon Sinek says so well.
Making a deliberate and conscious attempt to identify which of our core values are of greatest importance to us, is crucial if we are to keep your anxiety levels low and our sense of self-awareness high.
Read MoreIn conflict and stressful situations…
When you say, write or do something you want to take back, what can you do?
Be humble
Admit your fault
Apologize sincerely
Start again anew
All this is good, but it may not change long-instilled negative patters.
When you want learn to change your negative responses, what can you do? You can STOP and be SOBER.
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