It’s a season where we think we should be grateful but what can we be grateful for?
There’s bad news all around starting with a continuing pandemic (now we have delta and omicron) and ending with wars and rumors of wars, famine, diseases (other than covid) and floods.
STOP, THINK, FEEL, REFLECT – and BE GRATEFUL.
Read MoreMost people think of stress as the enemy, but it isn’t.
You can even be stressed and have along life, as long as you see stress in certain ways.
Stress can be a friend and stress in itself it is never the real problem.
It’s what we think about the stress and how we deal with the stressors that is the issue. We all have stress every day.
Stress is ubiquitous and every day we need to complete the stress cycle (you have to do something – because “wellness is not a state of being, but a state of action”) to thrive.
Read MoreUse your strengths to work on your weaknesses
When you know your strengths, go in the opposite direction for growth. That means gently pushing towards your weaknesses, using your strengths as your basis, as your foundation.
For example, if you are big on doing things right all the time, allow yourself some slack but also keep doing (most things) right. OR- if you want to grow in your relationships and you are good at listening, try sharing and being more vulnerable for growth, at the same time, still asking good questions and practicing active listening.
Read MorePAST: Remember the past and be grateful, PRESENT: savor what we have in the present and FUTURE: anticipate the good things the future holds with hope.
Read MoreI have just had a holiday. It’s been great, but at least for me, returning to the job can sometimes be difficult. Returning to work can be emotionally - and even physically difficult, especially if you have really had a mental break from your every-day schedule, as I have had. It can feel like you are a deep-sea diver coming to the surface again, facing a foreign world from where you have recently been. Resurfacing and getting back in the saddle, to mix some metaphors, are tough.
Start on a Wednesday, or even Thursday- or do a “fun” thing first
I restarted last Thursday.
Make your first work-week lighter by only working a few days, or perhaps schedule something “fun” first, such as a training day, or a team building day where you have no choice but to ignore your email list. This time I only focused on the deadlines
Read MoreNetworking can get you referrals.
Your best referrals will mostly come from people you know and I basically work from referrals. (former clients and present onew, remember to refer me, please)
To find more people who will refer you, will have to grow your network.
A web presence is nice, but, that’s where your referrals go to “check you out” after your name has come up. A website is not usually used by clients and customers to” find” you. They get referred, instead.
Thus, you need these ten tips for good networking practice.
Read MoreHealed people Heal people
So, what are you going to do? Join the grumpies and the people who yell, troll, and/or write nasty emails and even publicly “expose” people?
Are you going to be people who say, “I am going to hide in my hole till the mess is over”? It’s never over.
Or
Are we going to help people by looking for the best in others and to accept our personal responsibility for our hurtful ways, asking forgiveness and then moving on to better ways?
We can only change ourselves and our attitudes.
Read MoreHow is happiness attained?
1. In a job well-done (and if at all possible, within the time and financial constraints)
2. In (finally) reaching a goal
But also in:
· Healthy activity for mind, body and soul (and all the underlying goals to be reached)
· Good (safe, fun, reliable) relationships where I can be myself and share myself
· Doing good to others, especially “strangers” (no kidding!)
· Being grateful for the past, savoring the present and looking to the future with hope
· Being happy about your job and what that job contributes to “the greater good”
Read MoreUry’s 6-Step Model:
1. Put yourself in your own shoes
2. Develop your inner BATNA
3. Reframe your picture of the situation
4. Stay in the Zone
5. Respect them, even if…
6. Give and Receive
Read MoreHow are you getting ready for the fall?
Are your emails paired down and ready for responses? Do you code/color-code them for “triage” and potential clients?
What about your to-do list(s)? Do you keep your old lists to make sure you haven’t out something under the pile of papers for too long?
What is your calendar like?
Read MoreHow can we go into the fall with a calm and resolute heart to move forward positively?
First, decide not to decide (too much).
For sure, we need to keep moving.
Also, keep on planning.
Read MoreGen Z
Zoomer
Post Millennial—
· Ambitious, Digital Natives, Content-oriented
· Like comfort and flexibility
· Curious and open
· Socially and politically aware and active (but not in traditional ways)
· Start-ups and side hustles are the name of the game (and financial independence is the goal)
· Want their freedom
Does this fit your picture of the Zoomers you know?
Read MoreWhat makes good communication? It’s complicated to communicate, but it’s do-able.
Good communication is askill and art to be learnedthrough practice, knowledge and sometimes, through coaching.
Read MoreI am reading a book called, “Useful Delusions”, which talks about how our mind plays tricks on ourselves to help us be more resilient. One of the research-based sections is on optimism and how optimists live longer. Sorry for those of you who don’t use your rose colored glasses very much. Dust them off and try to remember the positives in life and be grateful for them. Here some ideas: Be grateful, stand like Wonder Woman and smile more often.
Read MoreAvoid awfulizing, us vs. them, and scarcity mindset thinking when making decisions to be successful.
Read MoreWhen we make good choices, we want to be aware of our biases and think more clearly. Here are ideas to make better decisions:
Read MoreOur biases can damage our decision-making process and even endanger our plans, projects and companies
Read MoreWe all are learning beings.
Life is all about learning.As a child we learn to speak and walk and soon enough we are running and chatting away… The main idea is to be open to feedback and even criticism, looking for even wee grains of truth. We all have something to learn. Let us keep on learning, even if we think “I know this”.
Read MoreEmotional and Mental triggers need to be noticed, reflected on to find the source, and then a plan should be made to help dilute the triggers and try to avoid responding. This is part of a growth-mindset.
Read MoreWhen you take time to reflect on your emotions and experiences you grow.
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